Your parenting style has a significant impact on your child’s growth. While your experience is unique and should be tailored to suit your child’s needs, there are four basic parenting styles.
The Authoritarian parenting style places importance on following the rules. Children are taught to comply and when children are not obedient they are strictly punished. When a child asks why a certain rule is in place the parent usually does not offer an explanation. These parents expect children to follow their rules without question.
Authoritative parenting is a second parenting style that also teaches children to follow rules, but in a more responsive manner. Unlike authoritarian parents, authoritative parents are open to discussing their reason for the rules that they have put in place. When a child breaks a rule an authoritative parent forgives the child. This form of parenting is designed to be supportive.
Permissive parenting is typically seen as the parenting style in which children’s whims are indulged on a regular basis. There are rarely rules that are put in place. Permissive parents are typically nurturing towards their child. However, since these parents do not place an emphasis on following rules, the child usually views the parent as a friend.
Uninvolved parents are not very responsive or nurturing towards their children. These parents usually provide for a child’s basic needs, but they are unaware of what is taking place in their child’s life. These parents do not put rules in place and do not communicate with their children. Extremely uninvolved parents may neglect the child’s needs all together.
Not all parenting styles are created equally. A parting style will yield different results in the child’s development. Studies on the impact of parenting have been conducted on kindergarten children. These studies show that Authoritarian parents produce obedient children, but these children usually struggle with a low sense of self worth, have trouble in social settings and are not as happy as other children. Authoritative parents nurtured children that were confident, happy and successful. Children with permissive parents tend to be unhappy and struggle with approaching authority figures with respect in a school environment. Uninvolved parenting has a negative impact on a child; these children have trouble following rules, struggle with their class work and have low self-esteem. As these results indicate, an authoritative parenting style is the most beneficial to a child’s development.
However, it is common for parents to not fall squarely into one category. It can be the most beneficial to blend parenting styles when approaching your child. Parents can have different approaches; the mother may gravitate towards an authoritative parenting style while the father might tend to be more permissive. The parents do need to cooperate and present a unified front towards the child. The parents need to agree on what is acceptable and unacceptable for their child.
Being a parent is not an easy job. Most importantly, be attentive to the needs of your child. A child will benefit from a parent that responds to their needs and teaches them how to respect the needs of others.